Once in a while, I get comments which are along the lines of, “I haven’t read your post fully, but here’s what I have to say about this topic…” It bewilders me, and I am sure it must bewilder you to read about it here, if you haven’t encountered some such comment yourself. I am so grateful to WordPress for not having a dislike button, though the rate at which they are changing things here, that may soon become a reality. However, if that were the case, I would, at least, like to earn my dislikes, as I earn my likes. There is a larger issue at stake here, and it has to do with basic blogging courtesy, i.e., manners, if ‘courtesy’ is too big a word for my potential non-reader who would oblige me with a comment about my vocabulary.
I don’t read all the posts I ever click on. I’d go mad if I were that sincere, because there is just too much out there. Even as I complain about it, I am adding to it. This very sentence you are reading right now is taking you one inch towards a migraine. I myself have had awful headaches and eye strain lately, or what is called (big word alert), Computer Vision Syndrome. And so, if you’re really having such a hard time, close tab and move on. There are plenty of other things you can click, which will make that coming migraine worth it.
The complaints I usually get about my blogging are – big chunks of paragraphs, long, winding sentences in the passive voice, long posts in general and almost always too digressional. My own personal criticisms in addition to these (for I agree with all of them) are: lack of professionalism in presentation and promotion, lack of adequate forward interaction with the community, lack of topicality, complete lack of research for posts and keeping my lazy-writer mantra of “writing my way out of things” alive and most of all, lack of brevity and to-the-pointness, because I know I have something worthwhile to say, but the internet does not have the patience to put up with my fumbling as I say it.
If this blog was someone else’s and I did not have the patience to put up with it, I’d close tab and move on. I wouldn’t actually undertake the exertion of writing a comment. This is a niche blog, though every subject on it is universal. However, that is the point. To write about the macrocosm from somebody’s microcosmic experience. And it isn’t anything new. Anyone who’s ever had the audacity to call themselves a writer, an artist or an observer of life does the exact same thing.
I keep the comments on this blog under moderation because I take great care in making it a safe place for anybody to visit. My approach to any life experience I discuss here is empirical, or at least as vague as possible. I don’t try to promote or discuss any established world views, because that invites polarity and controversy that I do not have the strength or willingness to deal with. And you know what? It has been remarkably easy to keep things that way. I respond to every comment I get, and allow them except for two instances: when they are completely unrelated to what I’ve written (and you won’t believe how bizarre some of these are) or if they shamelessly plug their own blogs without giving any indications that they’ve even read my post.
I am irked by plugs in general. The whole point of having a social media account is that it leads to your social media presence. You don’t need to tell me to visit your blog. I can already click your username and be directed there myself. Don’t you know how the internet works?
I understand these are all uninformed attempts at promotion. Because these bloggers read somewhere that commenting attracts new followers, they decided to comment on every post they can, without ever bothering to read it. I don’t even know who would advice somebody to plug their blog in comments. If this is how they go about their promotion, how do they make their content? That is the hardest thing to do in the whole blogging experience – making new, readable/viewable things. But then, I wouldn’t know. I always check out the blogs of everybody who engage with my content, but I move on as fast as possible from such lazy commenters. I don’t want to prolong my disappointment and hurt at such careless responses towards my carefully made content.
I know this post has been very sarcastic, defeating my purpose of making this a positive place. But, I am human and this kind of unpleasantness is something I can only share with people who are also in it. Not that it is likely to change things, as the people discussed have, predictably, not read this as well. What a profligacy of words they’ll never read.